they used to be each other's best friend. from the time they 'knew' each other (you know, after that first 8 months of a baby when one's just a blob to the older brother) when one actually takes interest in the other. they were serious at this best friend thing. they were fiercely loyal. they would scheme and play and every now and then fight but quickly make up. one could not be without the other without a little bit of sorrow (apart from school) having chosen to be with other friends was rare and often the one left behind was rather sad. they wanted to start a business together when they grew up. and the thought of one leaving to go to college before the other, heartbreaking. i just tried not to think about it. (sappy, sap, sap) when chris and i would hear best man speeches at weddings that were
given by a brother, we'd immediately think of the boys and know they'd
be doing the same one day.
for the most part they liked the same things and disliked the same things. but this last year, changes began emerging. one started growing up, hanging out with friends more, having a different outlook than the other. they started snapping at each other with stinging fierceness. tonight, they were fighting like brothers fight. and i had had enough. my heart broke. i brought up this slow evolution i've been witnessing and with mild drama, i left their room with extreme displeasure with their behavior. minutes later, i heard them discussing their dissatisfaction with each other quietly. both hurt and both talking it through. i know deep down they still adore each other. it's interesting to see your babies grow into their own person, form their own opinions and discuss their feelings. as a mother who has seen many phases so far, i hope that this is a short lived phase. i miss my boys being the best of friends!!
watersix 